The union you are about to embark upon is one of spiritual growth. This journey of love will teach you both, so many valuable lessons. Continue to use the relationship to awaken each other to the freedom of love and celebration of life, which has carried you to the blessing of marriage. Be easy with yourself and with your partner and don’t take anything personally. In following this, laughter, joy and happiness will flow freely between you.
Here are some great tips from the book the 5 Languages of Love by author Gary Chapman:
Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
Recipe: Lentil Burgers
Prep Time: 10 minutes
Cooking Time: 1 hour
Yields: 8 servings
3 cups water, 2 cups lentils, 1 medium onion, chopped , 1 tablespoon olive oil, 2 cloves garlic, minced 1/2 cup fresh cilantro, finely chopped , 2 tablespoons tamari soy sauce, 1 tablespoon umeboshi vinegar
Add lentils, reduce heat to simmer and cook uncovered for 40 minutes until lentils become soft and lose their shape.
While lentils are cooking, sauté onion and garlic in olive oil for 10 minutes.
Add garlic and continue sautéing another 5 minutes.
Remove from heat and set aside with remaining ingredients.
Preheat the oven to 400 degrees.
When the lentils are finished, transfer to large mixing bowl and cool in freezer for 10 minutes.
Remove from freezer and add all other ingredients and mix well.
Form into patties, 4 inches in diameter and ¾-inch thick.
Place patties on a lightly oiled cookie sheet and cook 10-15 minutes in the oven.
Exercise: Bridge Lunges
Picture and exercise from men fitness
Hold your partner as if you're carrying her across the threshold. Then perform lunges, alternating legs. Two-Three sets of 10-15 on each leg should be good, depending on the weight of your partner. Try multiple exercises where you're using your partner as the weight. You’ll both have a wonderful time.